During my time on an university campus, a place that is often tricky navigate permission and sexual attack, we saw the way in which intercourse ended up being washed of its necessarily gluey nuances, and instead paid off to mutually exclusive dualisms of cis attacker and cis target. The testimonies delivered to quivering first-years were usually from heterosexual white women in new-student orientations. The teachers invoked stories of rape in which victims begged their assaulters within the “active, ” or top, roles to get rid of penetrating them. I happened to be implicitly instructed that the penetrated is definitely in the verge to be violated.
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